Spirit and Abortion

This is a non-traditional perspective on spirit and abortion. I know there are different views on this. This is mine.

Each woman is different in how she perceives pregnancy and abortion. For some women they have worked out their beliefs and how to make sense of abortion in a spiritual context, but for many women the choice to have an abortion brings a spiritual crisis. A woman may question when life begins, if there is a God and what makes a person good or bad.

Our access to abortion has meant that now we are burdened by choice. Whereas once our grandmothers were burdened by pregnancy and childbirth every year without reprieve, we are burdened by choice. What is right? What is wrong? We weigh the pros and cons of making the choice to terminate a pregnancy.

Choice is a gift, but it is also fraught with difficulty. We can only rely on our logic and our on our conscience when we need to decide what is best our self, our partner, our children and the fetus we have not met. Often our logic and our conscience are in opposition.

Many women cannot work out logically how they can possibly proceed with a unintended pregnancy. Each woman may have many things that prevent her from thinking it’s a good idea to have a child right now. However, her conscience fears that there may already be an individual spirit or soul connected to the pregnancy. A woman in this circumstance may fear that she is killing a soul or an individual spirit and in this, feels separate from God or Spirit.

I believe that when a woman has an abortion, although she does indeed terminate or kill the fetus on a physical level, she cannot kill spirit. We don’t have that power. If there is an individual spirit connected to a pregnancy, it is so much closer to the place from where it came- its original spiritual source- than it is to the physical plane. The spirit simply returns home.

It’s really a bit arrogant to believe that we can kill spirit or energy. This is the stuff the whole entire universe is made from. Who am I to be able to kill that? I can only control some things in the physical world, not the matter of the whole universe. That’s the burden of something or someone greater than I. It is not me.

On the spiritual plane that spirit or life-energy continues. If there is an individual spirit connected to a pregnancy, it may choose (or be chosen) to return to this physical place, but it may not. Maybe the purpose of that spirit was simply to be the fetus that you terminated. Perhaps the turbulent emotions or the changes that have come from this pregnancy and abortion are the message to you. And that is all you needed from this spirit. However, maybe that spirit will be connected to you again in the future in some way. If there really is meant to be a little spirit or soul for you to know, you will. You can’t stop that.

I read on a poster somewhere:

“ You are NOT in charge of the entire universe. That’s my job. Love, God.”


I believe that is true.

With love,

Heather.

On risk taking

Well, it seems an appropriate title to my first blog. I used to hide what I did on-line and although Facebook has done a lot toward letting me be in the digital world openly, having a web site and now a blog are still challenges.

"Nobody move and nobody gets hurt."

It's a line from an old rap song (and every bank robbery scene in old movies), but it sort of summarizes the way I think lots of us are taught to be in the world.

"Do what you're told" "You don't need to make a fuss."

Isn't this what we heard as children in school and at home? Sure some of us may have had different messages, but by and large it is a message of conformity that we consider appropriate socialization and acculturation.

Of course the problem is that without risk, there is no passion. Without passion is there life? I mean a real life?

I realized recently that I often find myself in situations where I am second in command and miserable. I *like* being a leader, but I am afraid of the commitment that takes and of the risk! If I am the one in charge then I am the one responsible. What if I don't get it right? And even if I could get it right, how much work will it actually take? Maybe I am better off to just blend in and lay low.

When I was in my 20's I used to do stupid-ish kinds of risk-taking in order to keep myself from taking the big risks- like dropping out of University and driving around in my car. So instead, I jumped out of an airplane a couple of times; I went tandem hang-gliding; met strange people in strange places and probably did things that were strange and unsafe. A kind of risk-taking that is of limited value and more so: misdirected.

That's the kind of risk-taking I think lots of people do. People take stupid risks: drink too much; drive too fast; spend more than they can afford; fool around with birth control; don't wear their seat belts; are careless in the relationships with the people they love the most.

Why do people take these misdirected risks? I think most of it is an unconscious and unaware sense of life, but some of it is searching for a thrill or something that feels good for the moment. There are other ways to fulfill the need that these stupid risks temporarily fill.

One way: be real.

(Wow, what a risk!)

It's hard to be honest with our self and with those in our life. I don't mean brutal honesty, but how about brutal vulnerability? How about living from a place where you can appreciate the fragility of life and the value of relationships?

It is said best by Anais Nin:

And the day came when the risk to
remain tight in a bud was more painful
than the risk it took to blossom.

So what am I risking by writing out my thoughts and claiming myself as a spiritual counselor & teacher?

That who I am will be judged.

But that is a risk I am willing to take.

If you want to, here it is: a spot in the digital world where you can point and say: "Really? Is that what you think? That's so dumb!"

But if you want, this is a place you can come back to and read my thoughts about how to live a fulfilled and wonderful life. That's what I (dare I say it) teach!

Heather.